30 Isn't What It Used to Be

I can't believe I just signed onto Twitter and read this headline:

"YIKES- Agyness Deyn lied about her age. Not 23, actually 29"

Really? Does it make a difference?

When a 29-year-old girl feels pressure to lie about her age, it really makes the sad state of NYC dating apparent to everyone. If these legions of men with Peter Pan complexes about marriage are holding off matrimony until age 35 or even 40 by choice, how can they still apply the same arbitrary age-30-isn't-cool-anymore cutoff to women? These men are the ones who'll date a 24 year old and string her along for 4 years until -- oops! -- she realizes you have no intention of marrying her and is suddenly 28 and single. Did we waste time? Of course. But are we any less desirable? Just the opposite. We are smarter and more successful and far more wise. We're in a better place to pick a better match, and know it's time to stop giving away so much of our time to these men who don't deserve it.

Patti Stanger believes you should never give a man more than a year, and I agree wholeheartedly. You don't have to get engaged after a year, but that's long enough for two adults to know if they're with the right person and act accordingly. And if you make a mistake (I have!) and end up 29 and single, remember this: Even a beautiful, successful supermodel felt compelled to lie about her age, and whether she's 23 or 29 doesn't make one lick of a difference to the public. And it won't matter to your success in life or love either. 30 is not what it used to be. It's just a number.