"There are four awful words — ‘Boys will be boys’ — that people use for making sense of what’s happening."
A few Facebook friends shared this article from Philadelphia Magazine about the sorry state of single men in America. But it focuses on the slacker type -- men who still live at home, play video games, and are not financially ambitious -- Um, forgive me but isn't that type of guy pretty easy to spot? It's the man who did move out, has his own place, found success in his career, and STILL wants to stay single well into his 30s that's more concerning. These men also never want to grow up, but based on appearances you'd never know it.
Why would any guy want to be like Peter Pan, anyway? He wears tights, and he's a ginger for god's sake! Just what part of growing up is so scary? They all say they "eventually" want to get married and have kids, and they've already accomplished everything else in their lives that traditionally has served as a milestone to adulthood: Graduating college, moving out on their own, and finding successful careers. So why is marriage, the final frontier, so unappealing?
Don't tell me that men are biologically wired to want to "spread their seed" (barf). We all know in science you only have to prove a theory wrong once to prove it wrong, and there are plenty of men who want faithful, committed relationships. So instead of calling these Peter Pan-type men the norm, let's call them what they really are: The exception. The defect. The anomaly. And let's stop placating to their immaturity and saying "boys will be boys" and making jokes about it. Because it's not funny.
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