Facebook is a great way to quickly suss out a new guy’s level of commitment and shadiness, as long as you know where to look. Luckily, you have me for that! 3 crucial social media "checkpoints" for key stages in your relationship:
At the Beginning: Take Note of His Privacy Settings
It’s fair (and even smart) to limit some profile settings when you first friend a new guy you barely know. So go ahead and hide those questionable albums from your friend’s bachelorette party in Vegas, and assume he may have done the same. But if his wall, tagged photos, and/or friend list are hidden from everyone, you might want to ask yourself (or him) why.
While You’re Dating: Watch Who Appears In His Feed & Chat Window
Facebook’s algorithm learns which friends you’re most interested in by how often you interact with them, then places updates from those friends at the top of your newsfeed. Same goes for the chat window – generally, only friends you’ve interacted with frequently or recently show up in the top section. So if you notice that every time he checks his Facebook account, a certain ex or other female he never seems to mention keeps popping up in the top spot, you might want to learn a little more about their relationship and proceed with caution.
Once You’re Serious: Expect Some Evidence of Your Relationship
Some guys are just not into Facebook. They’re simply not the type to tell the world they’re “In a Relationship” or declare their love for you via mushy status update, and that’s OK. However, once your relationship is getting serious (when you’ve met friends and family and have said I Love You) it’s time to see some evidence of you on the ‘book. Nudge him to upload that album of pictures from your weekend at the beach, and see how he reacts. Or, go ahead and do it yourself and tag him in the photos. Does he Like them? Comment on them? All good signs. But if he squirms at the idea of uploading photos of you two or un-tags himself in yours, that’s a big sign that he’s not ready for commitment.
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