Use It (Your Phone) Or Lose It (My Number)

WTF is up with guys and not calling?

I understand that if you've only been dating a few weeks, a guy might need a day or two to himself each week with no communication. Fine. A day or two. But not three or four. Once you cross the line of hooking up with someone you have to check in. For one thing, it's common courtesy. And for another -- it's assumed that if you like someone enough to jump in bed with them, you might actually think about them when they're not with you. JUST A THOUGHT.

I met a guy who seemed to be down to hang out all the time. When I'd see him, if I mentioned I was in his hood the day before, he'd ask why I didn't stop by. Every time we'd hang out, he'd ask what I'm doing the next night. Of course I didn't expect to hang out 2 nights in a row after just a few dates and assumed he was joking. If he was really serious, I'd gladly have seen him the next night. I liked the dude. But like I said, I assumed he was joking. And here's why: HE DIDN'T CALL.

Despite how interested he'd act on our dates, the next day, without fail, he'd go incommunicato. Meanwhile, other guys I'd met would be blowing up my phone to make plans or even just to say hi. But not this one. He'd wait a day or two just to send one measly text. I have to be honest, it was a huge turnoff.

I try to be understanding of men -- their need for personal space, their schedules, their inability to complete simple tasks like having conversations. But really, enough bullshit. If you like a girl, call her. If you hate talking on the phone, text her (more than a one-sentence convo, if it's not too much trouble). Once you've taken a girl's pants off, I think there should be a strict rule that you can't go more than 24 hours without a simple "can't wait to see you" or "how's your day going?" text. If you don't like a girl enough to want to chat on off days, you have no business taking off her pants at all.